You’re the one who shrugs things off. You don’t overreact. You let people vent, cancel, disappear for a while, and when they come back, you’re still there, easygoing, steady, fine. That’s the role, right? The chill friend.

It sounds flattering. Being unbothered, low-maintenance, safe. But sometimes, it feels less like a personality and more like a silent agreement: you absorb tension so others don’t have to.

You don’t want to seem needy. You don’t want to start drama. So you laugh it off when plans fall through, stay quiet when you’re hurt, or wait for someone to notice without having to say anything.

Eventually, that quiet starts to echo.

Being chill can feel real. Maybe you are genuinely laid-back, emotionally even, slow to judge. But being expected to be chill, always, can start to chip away at parts of you that also need space, like anger, disappointment, or just the desire to be prioritized for once.

It’s okay to care more than people think you do. It’s okay to speak up even if it changes how people see you. The chill friend doesn’t have to be the quiet friend, or the one who never asks for more.

Sometimes, being real matters more than being easy to handle.